alcopm-cheating-spouse-signs-to-investigateLove is such a special feeling, it is the special bond that connects two individuals and makes them complete. Love is an emotion that lifts up your spirit when you’re feeling down, and it is the reason why you wake up every single day with a bright smile on your face.

Being in love and being loved are two different things. You do know the feeling of being in love, right? It’s like you cannot eat even when you have your favorite meal in front of you. You cannot sleep at night, and all you think about is that person. How about being loved? Well, being loved by the person you love is one of the best feelings in the world. That person is your motivation to do anything and everything. You’ll do and endure anything to see the person you love, happy. Love is the main reason why you want to marry and be with that person for the rest of your life.

Love shouldn’t feel like this…

But while you’re doing all the best you can, you don’t seem to receive the same effort from your partner. There are certain reasons why they stopped doing what they were doing before you got married, and because of that, certain things gets on your mind like is he cheating on me? You want to know the truth, but how can you tell whether he is indeed cheating on you?

Well, you can actually look for signs. Check out these signs that you almost never notice.

He Takes His Phone Anywhere He Goes

During your early years together, even before you got married, he always talks on his phone in front of you, may it be with family, friends or even with his job. But now, he oftentimes checks his phone out for messages or missed calls and when does receive a phone call, he talks in private. Isn’t that doubtful?

He Works Longer Hours, and Even Works Overtime on Weekends

Now that’s pretty doubtful. He doesn’t have enough time for you and your family. He’s always busy at work, or always renders overtime work which he doesn’t usually do before. You’ve lived a good life before, without the long hours of work and the overtime, why now?

He Suddenly Cares about How He Looks

I know for women it’s a necessity to look great every time, but, if you put together the first two along with this, now you should really start to doubt that there might be something fishy going on here. And yes, it applies to men too. Back then he usually grabs the first thing in the closet but now he takes too much time dressing up.

No More Hello and Goodbye Kisses

Back then he just can’t get his hands off you, but now? Hello and goodbye kisses are seldom given and, sometimes not at all.

Coming Home Late at Night

Though this usually happens or those couples who have agreed to having alone time to go out with friends once every week but, coming home late every night is a very different thing. You might want to start checking his phone while he’s asleep like a log.

He’s Always Tired When You Want a Sexy Time

During the early stages of your life together and even after you were already married, he always had the time and the energy to make love to you, but now, he doesn’t seem to initiate the sexy time he always craves every time he sees you.

This last one goes to women. LADIES, YOUR INTUITION IS ALWAYS RIGHT!

Women! Never underestimate the power of your intuition! It is your biggest weapon. When your gut is telling you something, better believe it, because it is almost, always true!

These are just a few tell-tale signs that your partner is cheating. Also keep in mind that not only do women have an intuition, men have too, it’s what you call “gut feeling.” Never, ever ignore that. Now that you get things straight and you’ve noticed these signs on your partner, it’s time to do something.

You vowed that you’ll be together no matter what, meaning nothing and no one can tear you apart. You vowed to each other that you are to love and to hold, in sickness and in health until “death do you part.” As a married couple, you should talk about it. Communication is the key to a lasting relationship. You should let your partner know whether you’re happy, sad, and sick or anything that goes in your mind. Let them know how and what you feel, to save the love and the relationship you have.

But if he denies it, and if you really want to prove that you’re not making things up, you can hire a private investigator with the right qualifications to follow your partner around. Take pictures and keep track of where he goes and what he’s doing all day. You can also conduct computer forensic investigations; a service that allows you to spy on your spouse and determine if he’s indeed faithful. Only then will you determine whether or not your partner is cheating on you. And then you can decide the course to take next.

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If you want to become a private investigator then you should know first that it is not an easy job because it will require you to undergo several types of training and experience. Even though that it can sometimes not be as glorious as the ones that you see on TVs and movies, it can still be such an exciting career.

The first thing that you’ll have to do before starting a career in private investigation is to acquire the necessary requirements first. If you don’t have any idea what these are then you’re in luck because this article will provide you with that information.

Here are the requirements that you need in order to start your career in being a private investigator.

Get qualified
Jumping into a new career without adequate credentials and certifications would be foolish. There are plenty of online resources to help you out. We recommend you start at the World Association of Professional Investigators. They have a section of their website that talks about qualifications.

Research a location for your new business

Before you invest the huge amounts of time and money into becoming a private investigator, you should conduct some market research to learn if your city has a need for your services, and, if not, which city does.  They can find missing persons (aka skip tracing), spy on an unfaithful wife, or help with child custody court cases.  Atlanta is a great city for private investigators. Many set up agreements with local lawyers, politicians and business owners. New York private investigators also carry good reputations.

You need to study applicable subjects in college

There is no exact degree that you can get in order to become a private investigator but there are those degrees that can benefit you for that career. In fact, a good and solid education can already qualify as experience and training if ever your area will require some licensure. The ideal degrees for this career are criminal justice and Bachelor of Science on different fields. Criminal justice can be a good choice since it focuses on studying the law that governs criminal activity, criminal behavior, and application of certain punishment for that behavior. Bachelor of Science that focuses on fields such as physics, chemistry, mathematics, and biology that has emphasis in the fields of engineering and computer science studies can benefit you in this career as well.

Maintain a clean record

Before you start on your career path as a private eye, make sure that you maintain your ways of being a legal adult especially that has a clean criminal record. When you apply or get hired on your first agency, their standard routine is to perform a background check on you to ensure that you are legal enough to take on this path. If you don’t pass this test then there’s a very good chance that you won’t get hired as well.

Check state and federal firearm requirements

A firearm is sometimes allowed to be carried by a private eye for their own safety. There are strict laws in certain states that govern the issuance of firearms to individuals. The people that are most likely unable or not allowed to carry firearms are those that have criminal backgrounds or are already considered as felons by the state.

Get to know the job requirements of a private investigator

Communication skills are important in this career. You should know that being a private investigator can be pretty exciting to take on. However, there are certain times (almost all probably) that it can drain you both physically and mentally. There are many different tasks involved in which it can assure the overall security of your client. This means that you’ll have to be flexible in whatever you client demands and whatever the situation may require. If you are not up to such tasks then there’s no point that you continue on your career of being a private investigator.

Obtain experience in a similar domain

For you to acquire your license, you need several years of experience in a related field. These related fields may include a military police officer, law enforcement officer, insurance adjuster, employee of a licensed repossessor or licensed PI, or arson investigator, just to name a few. Even though that it may not be a 100% necessary but it can still aide you a lot in your private eye career.

Acquire a license to investigate

If your area requires one then you should definitely have this. There are some states in the US that doesn’t require licensure on a statewide level but there are also those cities that will require you to have one. If you are not sure as to what the requirements are for your local state then make sure to get in contact with your local Department of Public Safety right away to get more piece of this information.

So far, these are the requirements that you need to be aware about before you take on the career of being a private eye. However, you should still note though that these can be altered depending on the agency that you’ll be applying into.

Last updated May 30th 2016

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Private investigators are often called upon to investigate cases of identity theft, along with stolen personal or financial information. In modern times, their access to digital databases of personal and financial investigation helps them considerably in solving such cases. That being said, the best way to deal with incidents of the theft of personal information is to prevent them from happening in the first place: as with a deadly pathogen, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

Living in Boston?
It is entirely appropriate to contact a private investigator in Boston the event of a theft of your personal or financial information. There are official sources of information and assistance to which you absolutely ought to turn first; however, private investigators can carry on their own case work concurrently with any official investigation. There are private investigative firms which are accessible online, which work across the United States, which specialize in dealing with cases of identity theft and the theft of financial information; as with most professions which offer such a degree of specialization, such specialized firms have a high success rate and are authoritative sources of information on the subject matter.

Before We Begin…

If you believe that you or somebody you know has been the victim of identity theft, visit identitytheft.gov today. This is a secure government website set up by the FTC for the purpose of receiving reports of identity theft, for the sake of tracking down and prosecuting such cases. It is free to use, and extensively explained through easy to understand guidelines: the website itself will tell you where to go, and what to fill out. Don’t let someone else get away with stealing your identity; visit today, and get started with the process of protecting yourself from further damage.

Now that that’s out of the way, we can move on.

Four Key Steps to Protect Yourself from Identity Theft… in Advance

There are a lot of things you can do to help protect yourself from identity theft. Some of these are common sense ideas, while others might take a little bit of research. There are many viable sources of information available online, however, such as through the Federal Trade Commission’s Consumer Information website. The following examples come highly recommended, as four of the most important and widely-discussed steps you can take to keep your information safe – particularly while browsing the internet, or shopping online.

Dispose of computers, other electronic devices, and sensitive information safely.
Always shred documents with sensitive information, such as your social security number, account passwords, or financial information. Cross-shredders shred documents both vertically and horizontally, producing a confetti that no casual snooper is going to be able to reassemble into anything resembling intelligible information. Never throw away hard documentation with intact, legible personal information still on it. In the case of computers, laptops, and mobile devices, follow manufacturer’s guidelines for permanently deleting any personal information from the device before discarding it. You may have to call the manufacturer by phone, or visit their website online to find the most efficient and effective way of doing this, or it may be present in your owner’s manual. If the option of taking such devices directly to a local electronics recycling center is available, you should do so; there might even be a small amount of compensation involved. Otherwise, delete all personal information permanently, finishing with a complete reformat of your hard drive. Exposure to magnets is a good additional way to ensure that no casual effort to recover data from your discarded devices will ever be successful.

Don’t underestimate the vulnerability of hard copies.
Mail theft is still a leading source of identity theft today, and with the current emphasis on digital security it is one that many people often overlook. If you have outgoing mail, it is always advisable to take it to the post office or to a secure mailbox, rather than leaving it in your personal mailbox at home. Always remove incoming mail from your mailbox as soon as you can; if you are going on vacation, even for a couple of days, have a hold put on your mail so it doesn’t accumulate while you are gone. It is generally not advised, despite the prevalence of such activity, to allow someone other than yourself to collect your mail for you – even if they are housesitting, petsitting, or otherwise have legitimate access to your property… and speaking of which: do not leave computers or other devices which you use to access the internet in your house for others to use during any sort of extended vacation or other trip. Take them with you, and ask your housesitter to use their own devices.

Don’t overshare on social media networks, and never give out your passwords.
People compulsively treat their social media accounts as private journals, but much of the information presented there is visible to the world – even despite the (often nebulous and overly complicated) security measures that said networks have in place. Something you’ve shared with a trusted friend might be visible to a third party if their own account isn’t protected in the same way that yours is. Additionally, never share your password to any account, be it a bank account, a gaming account, or a social media account, with anyone. You never know who might login at a friend’s house, or follow them in using a public computer after they forgot to log out of it.

Protect your social security number.
Many legitimate businesses will ask you for your social security number for a variety of reasons. Some may be legally obligated to do so. Before disclosing your social security number to anybody, ask to speak to someone in charge. Make sure that you understand what safeguards they have in place for the protection of clients’ or customers’ personal information… and what their record is for data security. Ultimately, it is your choice as to whether or not you give this information over, but there is no harm in thoroughly vetting anybody who is asking you to entrust them with it.